How should people deal with shame?

How should people deal with shame? Is there a right way to deal with shame? Should you hide your shame like Dimmesdale or ignore it like Chillingworth. Or should you embrace it like Hester. I think you have to embrace it and not hide it. If you keep your shame to yourself, you can never get over it. You will always be unhappy. If you can stare shame in the face, you might have deal with the consequences of being judged by everyone else, but you can "scare it away" and get on with your life.